Tradition of Bidai.


Till now I was missing my bro , I was sheding tears thinking about him and the memories I had with him.
Things were getting normal, I was recovering from the loss and was  trying to manage without him.
Suddenly my phone range one afternoon and my younger bro told me Dad is not moving , he is not breathing , there is no pulse, I collapsed.

My life was shattered again. My dad is my Hero, I dont know how to not to miss him.
Every day I miss him, I miss him calling me atleast thrice a day just to check if i was alright.
I miss his possivness that he had for me. His caring and his guidance.
I fought with him so much but he never got upset with it I dont know how he managed that.

I was just thinking how can he get a cardiac arrest when things were so normal.

I think there was a lot which was unsaid between us.
He was missing me but he didnt reveal it. It would have made me uneasy to adjust in my new house.
Why will he not miss me , His routine started with waking me and to ensure I have a smooth life.
Calling me during the day to check how is my day , Am I ok , have I reached home or am I getting late.
My studies, my competitions, my work , my hobbies he was a part of every little thing.
Our discussions on Politics , movies,music , why will he not miss me .
Our fights on watching BigBoss and he insisting on watching Maharana Pratap.
He must be missing all this when I was away from him in my Sasural.

Diwali shopping what ever it might be new clothes, crackers,sweets without fail he got for us.
He never shopped for himself. He never had a luxurious life for him but he ensured we get the best. He ensured Mom is secured even if he is not there. Today my mom doesn't have to worry in financial terms but nothing can replace him.

This tradition of letting daughters go after marriage somewhere gives a strong pinch to our parents. Speacially DAD's . They are really not prepared to let their daughters go. A person who never allowed his daughter for late nights, over night parties, Long weekend stays how can he adjust his daughter gone completely away from him.

No dad will ever reveal this how much they miss their daughters. How much worried they are even after ensuring that the daughter is in safe hands.

My request to all DAD's
Dont love your daughter so much, she has to go one day and you have to move on then.

I wanted you Dad to see how happy I am and all good thigns which will come across in life ahead.

I know how much you loved me , how much you cared for me. Trust me I miss u and I was always worried for you. But we daughters are molded that way , to be strong, adjust anywhere we go.

I will always make you feel proud of me.

Guide me Bless me.



Sush

I am a abnormal girl
I like to go out in sun,
I like to go out in rain,

I like the fresh air
Places I go nature I see
I enjoy it my way,
I see the sunrise and the sunset soothes me
The beaches call me,
The shore follows me,
I like the sun
I like the rains, 
I dream for sparking bright future

I see dreams big then bigger,

Happiness is my way
Peace is not found anywhere,
I regain, reframe, rejoin and rejoice
I am a abnormal girl,
I am in every girl...


Cheers,
SUSH

And  I am Married....

After searching, hunting , verifying many candidates I mean marriage proposals finally I found my life partner.
I think the search of this for my parents was more difficult then me to say yes . But yes finally my parents found one. With initial family meetings and telephonic conversations we got engaged . We hadn't been on any date till then. After getting officially engaged it was time for our first date. It was an amazing one. Simple and easy going. Conversations at its best. Walk on the beach and ice gola and visits to 5 temples. It was memorable. Returning home I had this sense of assurance of getting engaged to the right person.Time passed and our wedding was around the corner. 
Getting married is not easy . The shopping never ends. The preparations are on going even after the marriage I think. The wedding day OMG what a day it was full of roller costar ride. You are not sure even for minute as how are you feeling or what exactly are you feeling. 
There is a super magnifying tension going in your mind and that is you are not returning to your home after the ceremony. You are at a brand new place with all new people. Complete blank ness.
But I must say families and relatives support you the best at these moments. 
I was lucky enough . I was surrounded with all best people in the family. Most of my tension was getting released step by step. 
I learned few things during this phase
You have to be strong enough to leave your family and move on
You have to communicate no matter how quite you are.
Learn to adjust
Be ready to change your food culture
The most important you should have the best Husband who helps you in learning all this.

New life begins. Whatever you have learnt gets refurbished. New culture , new people and your routine habits , everything changes. 
During this period I realized I was confused my new home doesn't seems to be my home and my actual home also seems to be different . It takes time to understand where you belong too.

Time is the best medicine for everything and it is true. Gradually I have learnt both are my houses and  I have to manage both of it without troubling anybody.

I am lucky and thank full to GOD for giving me this family and this wonderful husband.


Cheers !!!

Mrs. SUSH

Microsoft CEO Satya Nadella gaffe fuels debate on women in tech world 

Women should depend on "good karma" and "the system" and not ask for pay raises. This bit of advice by Microsoft CEO Satya Nadella 

Read more at:
http://economictimes.indiatimes.com/articleshow/44777632.cms?utm_source=contentofinterest&utm_medium=text&utm_campaign=cppst

Why we Woman still feel bad about these kind of statements.

By now Indian woman should get use to this.

May it be a illiterate man or a CEO of Microsoft their willingness towards accepting the woman empowerment is negligible. 

Why is it so difficult for men to understand that inspite of the multiple augmenting barriers a woman makes her place in family , society and importantly in her career.

Right from the beginning a woman - past tense as a little girl is given different values by her elders.

She is asked to dress not as per her choice but as what the society thinks , what the tradition says and how Men will look at her.

She is asked to learn house hold activities since her childhood with a single purpose of her getting married sometime in future. 

Her choice of education career should again be in sync with the society , family , future family and so on.

While this little girl is growing she is constantly compromising on many of her choices in the name of family , sanskar , society etc

Her choice of friends is also monitored.

She struggles , makes her way and starts her career,

Men then suddenly brings out all the principles of equality , they don't realize equality unless she is a competitor or a working associate. 

Why reservations for woman, why concession for woman, why do they gossip, why do they shop etc and etc.

Doesn't a Man gets concession in his work space for his family , social life , the frequent breaks for their smoke and chai ,

and Men they gossip about woman

What happens when their wife ( working woman specially ) are home waiting for them after struggling a long day , a long life , when exactly at that time their husbands are busy riding bikes, playing games, drinking or pubbing , no policy of equality then exist for them

God made woman and Man with their specifications , 

Woman with their tender physique , emotional heart , a brain molded since childhood with values which are not made for men. She still creates her identity , her space and career.

Men with no physical barrier , values given of being good , gentle man ,honesty etc but never nourished with statements like you have to leave your family , you have to cook , you have to work simultaneously , and have to do multi tasking you should not be wearing such clothes , you should not be out so long , you should choose career keeping your future and current family etc etc etc.

With favorable situations and different society values for woman and men any Man can develop his career , status ,identity etc.

Its always a challenge for a woman , Appreciate the way she is , Respect her career , her views , her identity.

She can be your competitor but just as any other male colleague.

Step into her shoes sometime , live her life for few days and then decide should she wait for karma to give a her pay hike.

Mr.Nadella are you by any chance insecured by the woman taking over the technology world. 

I am sure you must have seen immense woman talent at "Grace Hopper Celebration of Women in Computing, the largest annual gathering of women technologists". 

Apology on your statement is wretched.

It not only brought shame to the nation but showed how Men of Indian origin treat and think about their woman.

Your Wiki profile has details about your father but failed to mention about your Mother. You probably must have not paid so much attention. 

 

Loving and respecting your Mom ,sister in not enough. 

Grades don't measure intelligence.Maturity doesn't comes with Age. You proved this statement. 

All I want to say is Get well Soon !!!

SUSH

New Journey without you..........


This new journey of my life ,
I know bro you are watching me
I miss you and I am gonna miss everything that you would have done for me
Missing is inevitable 
Cherishing memories is a better option
The space remains vacant.................
But I smile now and look forward for all good things to happen 

Yours ,
Pinki

Coming back to life

When things got harder ,
Life looked crazy,
Had no ideas to pen down
Suddenly the days changed
Some one just took over it
and I realized
You always need a reason to look forward

Missing is inevitable 
Cherishing memories is a better option
Chasing dreams now is a vision
For now I know somebody is looking at it
The smile now matters the most
My new life awaits for its welcome
and I smile smile and smile .... With Suraj




Cheers !!!!
SUSH





 

Shree ani Jhanvi

आज काल सगळ्यांना झान्वी सारखी सून हवी आहे ,

पण त्यांचा मुलगा  श्री आहे का ?

श्री ने सगळ्यान विरुद्ध जाऊन झन्वि शी लग्न   केला , त्याच्या आई आजी च्या विरूधात जाऊन  पण ,

त्याने घर देखील सोडला तिला मान सन्मान , प्रेम सगळा मिळावा त्या घरात म्हणून,

तुमचा मुलगा श्री बनू शकतो का,

त्याने  असा  वागले ला तुम्हाला चालेल का?

तरी ही  सून तुम्हाला झन्वि सारखीच मिळणार ,

कारण सगळ्या मुलीना  माहित असता ,

" मन मोठा असला कि सगळा सामावून घेता येत "

सून पूर्ण एक परिवार सामावून घेत , पण मुला कड्च्याना एक मुलगी सामावून घेता येत नाही …।